Making My Marriage Work

    As I concluded reading Gottman’s book “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work” I sat and considered all I had read and learned and whether I felt as though it had made a difference in my marriage.  Had I really learned how to make my marriage work or just what wasn’t working in my marriage?

    I have definitely felt an impact from this book but not in the way I expected.  I thought this book would teach me how to change my husband.  Maybe teach me tricks and tips to get him to do what it is I expected or needed.  In reality, I learned what it was about myself that needed changed.  I learned some of my weaknesses, strengths, and some qualities about myself I didn’t even know I possessed.       Making my marriage work isn’t about what my husband is doing imperfectly but rather me finding what is perfect about my husband.  I obviously fell in love with him years ago and it is my responsibility as his wife to remember and support those qualities.

    Following some of the guidance and activities listed in Gottman’s book brought my husband and I so much closer together. We have learned to truly communicate and listen.  We no longer worry solely about our own agenda but rather the feelings and thoughts of the other person.  We no longer feel the need to endlessly defend our own position but to consider the position held by the other person.  We don’t stand our ground but rather share it with each other.

    I am beyond grateful for this book and intend to reread it often.  The teachings within it go right along with what I believe as a Latter-Day Saint regarding marriage and family.  I know that this book has forever blessed my marriage. 

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